RETA is for YOU


The following is a special post from Roxana, RETA's Executive Director.

I often wonder if everyone knows that RETA’s services are for everyone. If you are a donor, a supporter and believe wholeheartedly in our mission you already know we help women and men who are experiencing an unplanned pregnancy or parents who need extra support. You may even understand that we have people of all ages coming to our programs.

But do you ever think that we are also here for you or those close to you?

I love the fact that because we don’t receive government funding, we are not limited to serving only those of a particular income bracket or have children of certain ages. RETA’s programs are for anyone who has a need. Do you know of someone in your family, a neighbor or someone in your church who could use our Mom’s Coaching or Men’s Coaching? Have you or someone you love experienced the painful loss of a pregnancy or stillbirth? Do you know someone who has regret and hurt from an abortion decision? Regardless of how long ago or how recent these events, many struggle to find a safe place to share their hurt and sometimes there is hesitation to share even amongst their Christian community. 

Please keep in mind that RETA isn’t just here for other people. RETA is here for everyone and everyone includes you and those you love. 

Restroom Renovation Begins


RETA is currently in the process of renovating our medical restroom. The renovation, which started last month by a wonderful volunteer, will make the restroom more accommodating for our clients.

RETA's Executive Director, Roxana, said of the project, 

"Renovating [the restroom] will give it a more professional and medical look." 

When the project is finished, the restroom will have a new paint job, new countertops, flooring, sink, cabinets, an opaque film covering the window and a pass-through window. The restroom will be more functional for our nurses by including more storage for medical equipment and more efficient for our clients taking a pregnancy test, providing them a better experience.

FUN FACT - When the building was purchased by RETA, the medical restroom was originally a food pantry built off of a kitchen.

Healthy Sexual Boundaries Ed.

 The BB's represent the number of people an individual has been exposed to based on the number of sexual partners they've had and the number of sexual partners their partner has had. The containers above, from left to right, include 1, 3, 5, 8, 10 and 12 partners.

The BB's represent the number of people an individual has been exposed to based on the number of sexual partners they've had and the number of sexual partners their partner has had. The containers above, from left to right, include 1, 3, 5, 8, 10 and 12 partners.

This week, RETA staff Jeff and Joni headed to Elkhart Memorial High School to talk about Healthy Sexual Boundaries Education.  RETA has the awesome opportunity to partner with area schools to present the positive choice of abstinence, as abstinence education is required by the state of Indiana to be taught. 

Jeff and Joni's purpose in speaking with teenage students was to educate them on what having healthy sexual boundaries means and what risks there are from being sexually active outside of marriage. They presented the information to provide students examples of how their lives can be affected by their choices.

On the first day of presenting, Joni and Jeff explained what healthy sexual boundaries are and what it looks like for the students to practically set up boundaries in their lives.

“These are choices they need to make for themselves, it’s not silly or dumb to say no”
- Teacher, Elkhart Memorial High School

Jeff and Joni wanted the students to know that it is okay to say no to sexual activity and explained the risks that come with deciding to be sexually active. One activity that stood out during their presentation included Starburst candies. The Starburst activity had the students take a single Starburst, put it in their mouths without chewing, then putting the un-chewed candy into a bag with the rest of the class's. Making a point from the activity, Joni would ask a student to take a Starburst out of the bag and eat it. Joni was not actually going to make students eat the candy, of course. When the student denied eating a Starburst because of germs from others, it helped prove her point that if you did not want to share a piece of candy someone had in their mouth because of bodily fluids, it's no different from sharing bodily fluids during sexual activity.

Continuing with the interactive demonstration, Joni and Jeff moved from Starbursts to BB's. The activity showed the students the number of people they could be exposed to if they decided to be sexually active before marriage and if their partner was sexually active with others. The BB activity gave a visual aid to students about what they are exposed to when having multiple sexual partners. Wrapping up the first day of presenting, Joni and Jeff gave more information regarding statistics about the amount of teens having sex, adoption and abortion. These statistics helped students understand what was really happening with others their age.

To begin the second day of presenting, Jeff started out with an activity where students could understand how their choices affect their path in life. For the purpose of the class, they focused on how sexual activities could affect their future marriage and future plans. One example Jeff gave was helping students think through having a sexual relationship with a person who was not their spouse. He had the students explain how they thought it would affect their life path and their future marriage. The activity helped students think through real-life situations, enabling them to understand how their choices can affect the rest of their lives.

Jeff and Joni wrapped up the two days by having students write on a note card what their personal boundaries would be. Jeff read the anonymous boundaries to the class some to help the students understand they are not alone in having boundaries.  Jeff said,

“One example that we have had in the past was that someone’s boundary was abstinence.”

When students know their boundaries and have them in place, they're more likely to follow them if they didn't have any going into a potentially bad situation.

When asked why RETA is invited to speak, the teacher said,

“Kids need to hear about all of this. It’s not made up, it is real life”.

It absolutely is real life. We're so glad to be able to partner with local schools and churches to help teens think through the choices they're making and how they can affect the rest of their lives.

Click here to learn more about our Healthy Sexual Boundaries Education program.

Christmas Store Spreads Joy


Thanks to our donors, RETA’s Christmas Store was a huge success! Joni Bradberry, RETA’s Client Services Manager said, 

“We were able to serve a wide variety of people from all walks of life and bless them with the Christmas Store this year.”

In fact, 111 children from 41 families were able to open presents on Christmas thanks to the generosity of our donors.

Here are some of the many thank-you’s from our clients to our donors:

“Thank you for showing the love of God this Christmas season.”
“Thank you for giving my children
Christmas. God bless.”
“Thank you all so much for giving me the opportunity to give so much joy to my
children this year.”
“All of you here at RETA are a blessing to our family. God bless you.”
“Thank you for everything. It means the world to me and I know my son will love the gifts. Bless you all and Merry Christmas.”
“Thank you so much for thinking of us this Christmas! Our boys will appreciate it so much. God bless!”
“Thank you so much for helping me make Christmas possible.”
“Thank you so much. I don’t know what I would’ve done without RETA. I love all of you.”
“You have no idea how grateful we are for you! You made it possible to have two very blessed, joyful children Christmas morning!”

All we can say is thank you. Your generosity shows the love of Jesus to those we serve.

Pregnancy Loss Support Begins

JOIN PREGNANCY LOSS SUPPORT GROUP  |  This free and open group meets 2nd Monday of each month from 6-7:30 p.m. at RETA.


In 2017, RETA performed more than 375 ultrasounds. Our nurses have the joy of showing eager young moms and dads their baby’s heartbeat, as they get to see their baby moving, kicking and jumping in utero.

Sometimes we don’t have good news to share as parents watch the ultrasound. Sometimes their baby has no heartbeat. As some of our dear clients and several RETA staff have experienced, finding out that you’ll miscarry is a hard and traumatic experience. We have hopes and dreams for our children and that starts early on in a pregnancy. Those hopes and dreams die when you find out that your child has died.

We wanted to have a direct point of support for those who experience miscarriage, stillbirth and premature infant loss, so we expanded our services to include Pregnancy Loss Support. 

Under the Pregnancy Loss Support umbrella, we will provide a support group and resources to moms and dads who experience the devastating loss of a baby. We will also continue to provide our life-changing Abortion Recovery Support under the same umbrella.

Tonya Harwood, RETA’s Pregnancy Loss Support Coordinator, oversees both areas. Tonya says of Pregnancy Loss Support,

“I’m looking forward to walking through the healing process together and coming alongside parents as they grieve.”

No one should feel like they have to walk through the loss of a baby alone.