“John” is an experienced father with children ranging from toddlers to teens. The others live with their mother, who divorced him. She is in a new relationship, and the children appear to be struggling with the new family dynamics.

John is a follower of Jesus, and I have seen growth in him in the past year. He acknowledges that there is a lot he cannot control about his situation, and he is intentional about doing what is best for his kids.

We recently did a lesson together about how to handle holidays after divorce and it led to a good discussion. John realizes that the past cannot be changed and that Christmas celebrations going forward will be very different. He wants his children to continue to know the love and peace that can be found in Jesus even when life throws them a curve. He has a good heart, and wants to have a spirit of positive cooperation with his ex-wife as they co-parent. He wants his kids to experience joy at Christmastime despite all that is going on.

John’s situation pointed me to Jesus’ words in Matthew chapter 7 about asking, seeking, and knocking. Jesus goes on to say, “If you, then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good things to those who ask him!” In our best moments, with the most colorful gift-wrap, we can never be as generous as God. We know that Christmas is not really about gifts, but that Jesus is the Source of joy and peace. I look forward to seeing John walk his path, trusting God as the Source for all good things for his family. Please pray that they (and we) will be able to focus on Christ this Christmas in the midst of so many distractions.

by Jeff, Men’s Coaching Manager