A popular series for several clients these past few months has been Boundaries with Kids by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend. There are fifteen short lessons that cover the basics of how to develop and teach boundaries to our children.

Some of our moms have commented that no one ever taught them safe and healthy boundaries, so it is difficult knowing how to teach - or even model - boundaries with their own children. One lesson focuses on helping children see themselves as a problem-solvers and not victims. It also focuses on the difference between a load and a burden.

A burden is an overwhelming problem that can be due to pain or a crisis that we need support to deal with. A load is a normal responsibility we all have such as school, work and chores and we can handle those without support.

After doing the load/burden lesson with one of our moms who has a teenage son at home, she took it to heart. This mother reflected that her child was being defiant at home and school, was playing the victim card and blaming others for what he needed to take responsibility for. We were able to discuss how she could put this lesson into practice. She mentioned during a later coaching appointment that it was helping and she felt like she was handling his defiance in a healthy way.

This coaching is not only helping parents at home right now, but transforming families for the future!

by Joni, Client Services Manager