A couple doing Couples’ Coaching, K. & E., is expecting their first child together. He has children who live with their mother, but he rarely sees them due to distance. In a discussion about the father’s role, he shared about how his behavior with the other children did not line up with cultural expectations from his past. He said most men just work, provide money and fix things, but leave parenting and child-rearing to mothers. It was important to be tough and manly and not be distracted by family or home issues. He talked about how instead, he changed diapers, carried his kids around, and did all the things their mother was doing. He said he wanted to be an involved father with this baby too, and not be left out of important times together. He said whatever people thought, this was the kind of father he wanted to be, that he wanted to do what is best for his child. I told him I respected his attitude and encouraged him to maintain that mindset. Even before birth, kids are better off when dads like this decide to be their champions! K. & E. are faithfully coming to appointments and are nearing the third trimester. Life will get much more interesting for this couple very soon!

by Jeff, Men’s Coaching Manager